The Secret to Weight Loss is Love Yourself As You Are Today
Many people ask us what the secret of losing weight and keeping it off is. The one thing we know for sure is: Love yourself exactly as you are here and now. In other words, love who you are today with your excess weight, with your lack of success, with your disappointment from being a disappointment for others.
Do it in the here and now; otherwise you will be unable to attract the self-confidence, approval, and self-love you require for the success of the process. If you possess a lack of self-worth, or feel shameful, or feel that you are a failure, these things will be central to defining your life.
When asking people what their motivation is to lose weight, we have received a variety of answers. The most prominent answer among them was to improve the way they feel about themselves. They all expressed a desire for their loved ones to also view them in this light and feel good being around them. It means that once we start to feel better about ourselves, we want to share it with others. So why not start right here and now?
If you want to feel beautiful and increase your self-image—get started. Why wait?
If your answer to the question above is, “I am overweight and frustrated and will never be able to experience positive things,” think again. It means that you believe that being overweight is the source of all your troubles. Is that really true? And is losing weight really the solution to all of your troubles? Do you really believe that all thin people love themselves and have high self-esteem? Do they alone hold the key to happiness? Of course not all of them—only those who feel good about all aspects of their life. Self love and confidence come from within and not as a result to external circumstances, such as weight. Start loving who you are right now and your weight will follow.
Do you really believe that if you were thin you would possess total happiness? If you were thin but lost all the good you have currently in your life (i.e. eyesight, family, job, etc), would you really be happy? Happiness is an emotion generated from your innermost being. You have the power to determine your identity and how you feel towards it, no matter what circumstances you face. If, like Barry Kaufman, a man whose son was diagnosed with autism, chose happiness, you can too.
Don’t ever forget how amazing and fascinating you are! There is no one in the world like you. No one can bring to the world what you can. You are one of a kind. Along with the negative characteristics you possess (or think you possess), be assured that you also have extremely positive ones. Allow them the distinguished place of honor and attention they deserve in your life and start truly loving yourself as you are now.
The day your love for yourself increases is the day you will find yourself taking giant steps toward liberating yourself from food. Not only will you be a “thinking-thin” person, but you will also turn into a much happier and content person.
Remind yourself every day that you’re amazing! Adopt these phrases as mantras and repeat them over and over again:
“I’m amazing”
“I’m wonderful.”
“I’m healthy and happy.”
During difficult times, remember to be thankful for what you have right now. Remember that the negative thoughts controlling your conscious mind aren’t really yours. These thoughts infiltrate from your surroundings and from the people who you were exposed to and who have influenced you throughout your life. Choose differently!
When you have the courage to choose to accept and see your inherent beauty, everybody else will follow.
To Your Success,
Adi & Nehama
Nehama Sever and Adi Shaviv
Authors of the book “Why Am I Not Thin Yet?”
Founders of “Gold Mind The Science of Prosperity”
International Self-Development Speakers and Mentors
Think Your Way Thin Webinar
Being Grateful Is A Catalyst For Weight Loss
Much has been said about gratitude. Many self-help books discuss this issue and its importance. Why do you suppose they all deal with gratitude? What does gratitude possess that all the self-help books suggest it?
By gratitude we mean the heightened feeling of being blessed in your life, not the automatic “thanks” you use in certain situations to be polite. It’s the same feeling that causes your heart to skip a beat, or overwhelms you with an enormously positive sensation.
Many people believe that if they express thanks for their present situation, they will never want to change and will soon find they are overweight again. Expressing gratitude for the life you have does not mean giving up on obtaining a desired weight. For all intents and purposes this does not weaken purpose, but indeed, it compliments it!
In loving what you have in the here and now and in expressing thanks for the good things in your life, you are actually establishing a positive catalyst for embarking on much-needed change. This is not giving up by any means! On the contrary, it is a better starting point to attain renewed self-love. We actually claim that a lack of self-love ultimately leads to overweight.
This principle suits any change you wish to make in your life. For this example we will talk about your body. First, you should thank your body for taking you from one place to another, for being there with you even when you don’t take care of it, for being in the weight and shape it is and not worse. It is true that your body is not as you want it to look, but only after showing gratitude for the joy it gave, you are truly able to move on to your new perfect body. Just because you want to replace it with a newer shape and weight does not necessarily mean you are ungrateful. What would happen if you weighed 20 lbs more? What if you were incapable of moving because of sickness? Couldn’t your situation be worse than now?
Appreciate it, thank it and ask for something better. As a dear friend of ours, Steve D’Annunzio, says, “I thank my body for what it gives me in my life here and now and nevertheless I prefer a good looking healthy body.”
To Your Success,
Adi & Nehama
Nehama Sever and Adi Shaviv
Authors of the book “Why Am I Not Thin Yet?”
Founders of “Gold Mind The Science of Prosperity”
International Self-Development Speakers and Mentors
Think Your Way Thin Webinar